Whether we like it or not, the fact of the matter is that not everyone that we meet, will stay in our lives. Sometimes, as humans, we meet people and instantly expect for it to be a long lasting friendship, romance etc. However, the universe may have other plans.
Why would so and so enter your life to be a perfect listener, someone who cares about you, someone you can see yourself building a future with, yet 3 months down the line they disappear? I’m sure that we have all been through a similar scenario. It is natural to question if maybe you are to blame? Were you “too nice”? Did you make yourself “too available”? Did you sleep with them “too quickly”? Although self-reflection is important, unfortunately, some of these things are beyond our control.
At times the way that people treat us is actually a reflection of how they view or feel about themselves. We need to learn to differentiate the difference between when we have over stepped the mark and have caused someone to walk away from us, to someone who simply just isn’t meant to be in our lives for a long period of time. These individuals’ actions (or lack of actions) will show us this.
How I see it, people that remain in your life or decide to leave, are both blessings. Crazy right?
So let me explain. People that remain in your life are a blessing for obvious reasons. They have been with you through your highs and lows. It could be that y’all have grown up (mentally) together. You have learnt x amount of things from this individual which is invaluable. However, what we tend to overlook, is that people with short features in our film called LIFE often teach us important lessons too.
I’ve often looked back on situations were someone either disappeared, or I had to do the disappearing, and it helped me acknowledge that the lessons learnt here made/makes me feel powerful. In these situations that one may label as “negative”, I tend to see the positive side of things. So for example, let’s just say I meet a guy and everything is going great, and then eventually he starts to showcase manipulative behaviour. This behaviour will cause me to walk away. However, I now would have learnt about certain signs to look out for in the future. Not only that, but in that scenario I would have learnt more about what to not tolerate from a guy.
Another example that I can give, is maybe a friend that you’ve known for about 2 years, continuously makes negative remarks anytime you share your good news with them. 1 day they complain that you 2 were meant to be “on the same level”, and make it known that they can no longer be friends with you because you’re “extra”.
The lesson learnt here is simple. You were unaware that you were friends with a jealous snake, and completely overlooked all of the warning signs. Now that the universe has put an end to such a pointless friendship, you are now aware of future jealousy traits within a “friendship”. Had this situation not occurred, you wouldn’t have any experience or knowledge within this department. Life is all about learning, and when issues like these arise, you better be ready to soak up all of that new knowledge!!
Be grateful for all of life’s lessons, even if they are lessons that you did not want to experience. They are experiences that YOU NEEDED TO HAVE in order to move onto the next level of your amazing form. Rather than dwelling on the ain’t sh*ts that you’ve “lost”, focus on what you’ve gained. All of your experiences have made you the person that looks back at you in the mirror. You’re living and breathing. Those experiences obviously DID NOT KILL YOU….. DID THEY?